Tag: House Church Pitfalls

  • House Church Pitfalls #2

    House Church Pitfalls #2

    The Ding / Dong Effect

    Dialogue vs Monologue

    Observations From My Journey 1970 – Date

    Involved with: House Church, Open Meetings, Christian Commune, Charismatic, 5-Fold Ministry, Shepherding, Messianic, Homeschool Parent, Organic Participatory Non-Hierarchical Relational Ekklesia Fellowship (add your own adjective)

    The Pendulum of Church Practices: Balancing Dialogue and Monologue

    The classic “ding-dong” sound of a bell results from its swing between two extremes. This imagery reflects major movements in church history. When the Church recognizes errors in its practices, it often reacts by swinging to the opposite extreme to correct the mistake.

    This overcorrection, while intended to highlight the flaws in current practices, can introduce new errors. The devil’s primary strategy (Plan A) is to obscure the truth. If that fails, Plan B is to push believers too far into an extreme version of that truth. Many truths exist in tension, balanced between opposing extremes. When a truth is taken to an extreme, it risks becoming an error.

    Dialogue vs. Monologue: A Case Study

    In many institutional churches, the Sunday sermon is a standard monologue delivered by the pastor. However, 1 Corinthians 14:26 reveals a different model:

    “What then shall we say, brothers and sisters? When you come together, each of you has a hymn, or a word of instruction, a revelation, a tongue, or an interpretation. Everything must be done so that the church may be built up.”

    This verse suggests that early church gatherings were interactive and participatory, with everyone free to contribute. The Greek word dialegomai, prevalent in the New Testament, refers to dialogue, not monologue. So how did the monologue sermon become the norm?

    In ancient Rome, without modern entertainment like television, skilled orators were a primary source of public engagement. These speakers captivated audiences from a podium, a format that seems to have influenced the modern sermon. In reaction, some have argued that the New Testament contains no examples of monologue teaching or preaching.

    Examining the Evidence

    This claim warrants scrutiny. Paul’s letters, which form a significant portion of the New Testament, can be considered monologues—extended teachings written to instruct churches. Acts 28:30-31 further supports this:

    “For two whole years Paul stayed there in his own rented house and welcomed all who came to see him. He proclaimed the kingdom of God and taught about the Lord Jesus Christ—with all boldness and without hindrance!”

    The word translated as “proclaimed” or “taught” here is didaskōn, which refers to teaching and often implies a monologue format. In the house church movement, many publish books, use YouTube channels and blogs—clearly monologue formats—to share teachings. Even house church conferences often feature speakers delivering monologues about the interactive nature of early church gatherings.

    Finding Balance

    Why must it be an either-or choice between dialogue and monologue? Both have a place. The presence of monologue teaching does not negate the value of dialogue or participatory gatherings. Some who strongly advocate against monologues express their views through monologue-style blog posts. They may argue that comments on these posts constitute dialogue, but the posts themselves are undeniably monologues followed by discussion. This, in itself, supports the idea that both formats can coexist.

    In conclusion, church practices often swing like a pendulum, overcorrecting in response to perceived errors. By recognizing the value of both dialogue and monologue, the Church can maintain a balanced approach, fostering participation while still benefiting from focused teaching.

    © 2025 B Arnold Stein

  • House Church Pitfalls #1

    House Church Pitfalls #1

    Recovering from Institutional Church Hurts

    Observations From My Journey 1970 – Date

    Involved with: House Church, Open Meetings, Christian Commune, Charismatic, 5-Fold Ministry, Shepherding, Messianic, Homeschool Parent, Organic Participatory Non-Hierarchical Relational Ekklesia Fellowship (add your own adjective)

    Many House Churches have members who have been hurt by their experiences in the Institutional Church. In some cases, the group is started by folks that are reacting to those unpleasant situations. They invested years in their Church, had many friends and relationships. But it ended badly. There was possibly mistreatment by a Pastor, a Pastor fell into sin, the church divided over different viewpoints on a Christian doctrine, A new pastor was hired and got rid of some of the leaders in the church…. The list is endless – fill in the blank.

    The bottom line is that a place you thought was safe turned out not to be. The church was your spiritual family and you ended up leaving and loosing some of those friends that you thought you would have for life.

    You got a hold of a book about house church, started reading the New Testament with different eyes. You discovered that the position of senior pastor was no where to be found in the bible. You started to realize that Christian Fellowship should be interactive, participatory, a dialogue instead of a monologue. You realized Christian Fellowship should be close friends that you share life with – not an event you observe on a Sunday Morning.

    You started looking for a House Church in your area. If you didn’t find one, maybe you started one. Or maybe you are still looking.

    Pitfall #1

    How long does it take to heal from the wounds of the Institutional church? Obviously, there is no set answer to that. Everyone is on their own healing journey. There is comfort in sharing our stories and our hurts with others who can understand them and have possibly gone through the same type of things. New House Churches that are started by folks with that kind of history are good places to heal and detox.

    However, warning – do not get stuck in that phase of spiritual life. There is a healthy period of time to debrief, talk over the hurts and find healing. Don’t keep doing that forever. That period of time has a focus on what we have learned from our past experiences in the Institutional Church. It helps us define the mistakes we made, and how we got roped into an unhealthy spiritual environment. It helps us frame the future and hopefully make better decisions going forward. It can also be a discovery time to see what about our personality allowed us to be manipulated into being a part of an unhealthy Church environment. It is a time that helps us define and see clearly “What we are Against” and what we do not want to be a part of again.

    The pitfall can come from staying focused too long on “What we are Against” and not beginning to focus on “What We are For”. There comes a time where we have to stop living our Christian lives in reaction to past hurts in the institutional church and we must move onto to focusing on Christ. We must live with a view of the future and the joyous privilege of living in a relational participatory spiritual family.

    Remember it is not what we are against – it is what we are for.

    There is also the issue of how we view those who have hurt us in the past. The whole issue of forgiveness and realizing we are all broken vessels. That is another pitfall area to delve into……… to be continued……

    © 2025 B Arnold Stein